That is the question! As your wedding planning is progressing and you’re getting to the point where you need to start making seating arrangements for your guests, you start to think about yourself. As the bride and groom, where do you want to sit? At a joint table with both sets of parents? Or, let parents host their sides of the family, and you’ll sit somewhere more neutral, like a table full of your friends? OR, should you go the sweetheart table route?
Thankfully, there’s no right answer! I’m just going to provide some food for thought from our personal experience. Some of the most common wedding advice we heard from folks before we got married was to try to slow down and take it all in. And when you’re whizzing around from photos to cocktail hour and greeting people, it could be hard to find a minute to get a word in with your new partner! So, we went the sweetheart table route and were really happy we did.
If you’re not fully up to speed on wedding seating lingo, a sweetheart table is a separate, small table just for the bride and groom. It’s usually placed at the head of all of the guests so everyone can see each other and guests can stop to chat and visit with the couple easily but it gives the newlyweds a separate space to connect a bit as they’re eating and getting to process this exciting time!
We found that we really did get to enjoy our meal and enjoy some conversation that we probably otherwise would not have had we been seated with others. We made the decision that we would make an effort to get around the room to greet and thank our guests throughout the night and on the dance floor and it worked just great for us. If you’re worried about that element, you can even purposefully schedule time after you’ve eaten your meal (your venue will serve the bride and groom first!), to walk around to each table and greet folks but still have some one on one time at your sweetheart table!
So, think it over! A sweetheart table may not be the right choice for everyone, but it’s a great option and easily accomplished requesting a small round table through your venue and some extra special florals or other decor to help spotlight that seating area!